Somatic & trauma-informed

Moving What's Held

Medium

For grief, anger, or what needs to move

10 min
Begin
clenched wrung out and quiet

Emotion is physiological before it is psychological. Short exhales discharge the autonomic charge without requiring the mind to process anything. The witness phase honors whatever arose. The long exhale settles what remains.

Short, forceful exhales discharge the physical tension that stored emotion lives in — the body releases what the mind alone cannot reach. Based on somatic and trauma-informed approaches, emotions may surface and move. The long settling phase at the end allows the system to integrate. Have support nearby if you are in a tender time.

The science behind it
Breath directly influences the autonomic nervous system through mechanical, chemical, and neural pathways. The pattern and tempo of breathing change intrathoracic pressure, engage respiratory muscles, and alter baroreceptor and pulmonary stretch receptor input — all of which feed into brainstem nuclei that regulate heart rate and arousal. Lengthening the exhale tends to increase vagal (parasympathetic) influence on the heart via respiratory sinus arrhythmia, producing a calming drop in heart rate and a sense of settling.

Short, forceful exhales provide a clear motor action that can help discharge trapped autonomic charge: they recruit the abdominal and expiratory muscles, briefly change thoracic pressure, and create salient interoceptive signals (strong sensations in the body). Those signals give the nervous system a chance to complete interrupted defensive or mobilization responses and to update the body’s sense of safety. Done within a safe window, this can reduce the intensity of held emotion without requiring cognitive processing first.

Attention to bodily sensations (interoception) during the practice helps integrate what has moved. Noticing subtle changes in heartbeat, warmth, or muscle tension improves the brain’s information about internal states and supports learning that the body can return to balance. Because breathing also affects CO2 levels and chemoreceptor drive, keep forceful or fast patterns brief and allow ample slow settling breaths afterward so CO2 and autonomic tone rebalance.
Sources and references
  • Book

    The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation

    Stephen W. Porges

    Foundational description of vagal pathways and how different vagal circuits relate to regulation, social engagement, and defensive states — useful background for why exhale/settle cycles affect safety and calm.

  • Article

    Relaxation techniques: Breath control helps quell errant stress response

    Harvard Health Publishing

    Plain-language overview of how breathing techniques influence the nervous system and practical guidance on breath-based practices to reduce stress.

  • Article

    Deep breathing: 6 health benefits of breathwork and how to do it

    Mayo Clinic Staff

    Clinical perspective on benefits and precautions for deep and paced breathing; useful for understanding safety considerations around CO2 and hyperventilation.

  • Website

    Somatic Experiencing® International (SEI)

    Somatic Experiencing® Trauma Institute

    Organizational resource describing somatic approaches to trauma and body-based completion of defensive responses — context for practices that emphasize discharge and settling.

  • Podcast

    Huberman Lab Podcast (breathwork episodes and resources)

    Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D.

    Science-focused podcast episodes and show notes that review how specific breathing patterns alter autonomic state, arousal, and physiology. Good for listeners wanting an evidence-informed, practical discussion.

Breathing rhythm

Discharge
3 min
Inhale
4s
Hold
0s
Exhale
2s
Pause
0s

Short, audible exhale through the open mouth. Let a sound come if it wants to: huh, ha, or nothing at all.

Witness
3 min
Inhale
4s
Hold
0s
Exhale
4s
Pause
0s

Slow, even breath. Do not push anything. Let the body do what it does: sigh, tremble, cry, or simply rest.

Settling
4 min
Inhale
4s
Hold
0s
Exhale
7s
Pause
0s

Long exhale. Feel the weight of what moved beginning to lighten.

Short sharp exhales to discharge, then long slow exhales to settle.

  1. Find a private space where you can make sound if needed.
  2. Bring to mind what you are carrying: grief, frustration, hurt, or just weight.
  3. Inhale for 4, then exhale sharply through the open mouth for 2.
  4. Let any sound come on the exhale. It does not need to be words.
  5. In the witness phase, stop directing. Just breathe and feel.
  6. In the settling phase, let the long exhale carry out what has been loosened.
  7. Rest for a few minutes when it is over. This practice does its work slowly.